Feeling lost or
empty inside? Read this.
I get it now…
I understand how women get to a point in their lives that they feel they ‘’lose themselves’’ or feel empty inside. I’ve dipped my toe in there and it’s not a nice place to be. Women are innately giving…so they give everything to their spouse, then they give everything to their kids…to their friends, their parents, their boss…You are so busy making sure everyone else’s needs are met that you don’t take care of yourself. Day in and day out, you are running around doing things for other people. You end up feeling ‘’lost’’ or ‘’empty’’ because you are not doing the things that bring you joy. I’m not saying that your family and loved ones can’t bring joy to your heart…but you are a person before you are a mother, wife, (fill in the blank). Further, you need to be a whole person in order to be the best mother etc. It’s when you stop doing the things that make you sparkle that you feel tired and drained and ultimately lost. That’s why you get to the point where you don’t care that your hair is a mess and you couldn’t be bothered to put make-up on. You don’t play sport anymore because ”there’s no time” and you don’t get that monthly manicure anymore because ”there’s no money for that”.
My friend, you cannot pour from an empty cup. And I hate to tell you this but you, and only you are able to turn this situation around. I am not saying that you need to suddenly become a selfish person but give yourself the same grace and compassion as you give to others. You need to consciously fit yourself into your schedule! By doing something everyday with your own well-being in mind you’ll be able to maintain a better self-care routine and your mental well-being will improve.
Self care examples
Eat healthy foods
Seriously, don’t just eat the crusts from your kid’s sarmies and call it lunch. Ensure that you get a good helping of fresh fruit and veg every day and make sure you have a healthy breakfast too!
Drink so much water
You know you should drink a lot of water so do it! Get yourself a pretty waterbottle and keep it by your phone. So everytime you pick up your phone you’ll be reminded to take a sip.
Get enough sleep
If you have to get up early, go to bed early. It’s that simple. Even if you don’t have to be up with the sparrows (or hadedas) it’s hugely beneficial to get at least 8 hours of sleep.
Visit your friends
I don’t know where I’d be without my friends! A good catch-up with a close friend is a great way to fill your cup. Better yet, arrange a weekend getaway to let your hair down and have fun!
Make time for yourself
You know what makes you sparkle! Make time for that thing at least once a week. Love hiking? Get those boots out and join a club. Love reading romance novels? Set aside an evening where you read instead of watching MasterChef with the rest of the crew. Love pottery? Or scrapbooking? I’m sure you can figure it out.
I used to play squash. I wasn’t a champ but I was a complete addict. I played every single day. I haven’t picked up a racket in years and I miss it terribly. There are many reasons why I can’t get back on the court…but it’s my self-care mission over the next few months to figure out how I’m going to fit it into my schedule. I challenge you to share your self-care mission with me here on the blog! I’ll post an update in a few months 😊
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”